Saying goodbye to your pet
Whether you're preparing for what’s ahead or facing difficult decisions now, we’re here to help. Learn how to recognise when your pet's quality of life is declining, what to expect from euthanasia, and how to look after your own wellbeing.
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When is it time?
The end of your pet’s life can feel overwhelming. You’re not alone. 75% of owners told us they experienced grief even before their pet passed, and nearly 40% struggled with knowing when to euthanase their pet.*
“Ask yourself, is my pet still enjoying their life?” advises our Head Vet, Rebecca Ashman. “Are the good days still outweighing the bad? People sometimes delay calling the vet because they’re worried they’ll be told to put their pet to sleep. But vets are there to support you both, which may mean treatment to improve your pet’s quality of life or discussing whether it’s time to consider euthanasia.”
*Based on the results of the RSPCA Pet Grief Survey 2025
I have one of the biggest decisions of my life to make – and I just don’t know how.
Your vet’s there to help. You’re not expected to make this call on your own.
What are the signs of a dog or cat dying?
Every pet is different, but there are some common signs that a cat or dog may be nearing the end of their life. These include withdrawal, lack of appetite, trouble moving, and changes in breathing or behaviour.
You might notice they no longer enjoy things they once did, or that they seem confused or restless. “Trust your instincts – you know them best,” says Rebecca. “If you’re worried, speak to your vet. They can help you understand what’s happening and advise on next steps to make sure your pet is as comfortable as possible.”
Unlike children who grow up and need you less, Rex got older and needed me more.
Signs of a horse dying
Changes in behaviour, appetite or mobility can all be signs that a horse is nearing the end of life. They may withdraw from their herd, struggle to lie down and rise again, or appear increasingly tired or disoriented. If you're worried, speak to your vet about next steps.
Signs a rabbit, guinea pig or small pet is dying
Small pets often hide signs of illness, so changes can be subtle. Look out for lethargy, laboured breathing, weight loss, or reduced interest in food and grooming. If you notice anything unusual, speak to your vet promptly. They can help you understand what’s happening and guide you with compassionate care.
How to check if your pet is unwell
If you're unsure how quickly to contact a vet, you can check your pet's symptoms for free using Vet Help Direct's online symptom checker or book an online or virtual consultation. Help Direct’s Vets aren't normally able to prescribe medications through virtual consults, but they can help your vet determine whether your pet needs urgent attention.
Preparing for the loss of a pet
Coming to terms with the reality of losing your pet can be incredibly painful. But being prepared will help you navigate the decisions ahead. Talk things through with your vet, ask questions, and lean on friends and family. Thinking ahead now can make things gentler for both you and your pet when the time comes.
Anticipatory grief
Anticipatory grief is the sadness and anxiety we feel when we know a loss is coming, like when our pet is getting older or unwell. It’s a natural response to the bond we share, but it can sometimes creep in too early, pulling us away from the time we still have together.
Try to stay present – simple routines, play, and affection can help you feel grounded and make the most of each moment.
Saying goodbye
Saying goodbye can look different for everyone. Some choose a final day of cuddles and treats before going to the vet. Others arrange a peaceful farewell at home. From our Pet Grief survey, one owner shared: “Daisy died at home with us next to her, holding her and telling her how much we loved her.”
Children may benefit from being involved if supported gently. Use age-appropriate language and let them ask questions. It can also help to guide others who have contact with your child – including an ex-partner, if you share custody.
However you choose to say goodbye, allow yourself to grieve. There’s no right way.
Calling the vet
If you think your pet may be nearing the end, call your vet. They can assess your pet’s condition, discuss options and help you prepare. You can ask about home visits, sedation, costs and what to expect. Don’t be afraid to ask questions – your vet is there to support you.
What happens when a dog or cat is put to sleep?
Step 1 – Sedation
If necessary, your vet may suggest sedation first so your pet is gently relaxed.
Step 2 – Injection
A painless injection is given into a vein.
Step 3 – Passing
Their breathing and heartbeat gradually stop.
The process of euthanasia is peaceful and pain free. Your vet may sedate your pet first to help them relax, then give a final injection that allows them to pass away. Many owners find comfort in being there. “There might be a gasp and their eyes are likely to stay open,” says Rebecca. “These reactions are normal and nothing to worry about.”
Euthanasia, when it’s time, is a final gift of love and kindness.
What happens when a horse is put to sleep?
Horses are typically euthanased by injection, or a licensed professional uses a gun to bring about instant death. Both methods are fast and pain free. The horse’s body is usually removed by winch, so owners are advised not to witness this part. Speak to your vet about the process and what feels right for you.
What happens when a small pet is put to sleep?
Small pets are usually given a sedation injection or anaesthetic gas first, then given an injection to stop their heart. Your vet will talk you through the procedure so you know what to expect.
Should I stay with my pet during euthanasia?
This is entirely up to you. Some owners want to be there, others find it too distressing. There’s no right or wrong. No one is judging you. If you choose not to stay, the vet and the vet nurse will reassure your pet.
Can I have my pet put down at home?
Yes, many vets offer home euthanasia, which can feel calmer for you and your pet and allow you to say goodbye in familiar surroundings. Costs can be higher for a home visit than being seen at the clinic, and availability varies, so speak to your vet in advance to see what’s possible and how much it may cost.
How much will it cost to have my pet put down?
Costs vary depending on the size and type of pet, whether it’s done at home or in a clinic, and whether you choose communal or private cremation. Some insurance policies cover euthanasia, so check your plan. If cost is a concern, ask your vet about help with fees or support from animal charities.
What if your pet dies suddenly?
The shock of a sudden loss can be devastating. It’s okay to feel numb or disoriented. Contact your vet as soon as you can and they can guide you through the next steps, including what to do with your pet’s body. For emotional support, visit How to cope with pet loss.
How to take care of your pet’s body
Your vet can care for your pet’s body and explain your options: home burial or cremation.
Pet burial
While pet cremation is the most common, home burial can be a comforting choice if you have a private garden. It must be on land you own, away from water sources, and the grave should be at least four feet (1.2 metres) deep. Wrap your pet in a biodegradable material, such as a natural fibre blanket. Check local laws if you’re unsure about burial regulations.
Pet cremation
Cremation is a common option and can be arranged via your vet or directly with a pet crematorium. You can choose individual or group cremation. Many owners opt to keep their pet’s ashes in a special urn or scatter them in a meaningful place. Costs vary, so ask your provider.
How to cope with pet loss
Grieving is normal and deeply personal. You might feel sadness, guilt or even anger. Children and other pets may grieve too. There is support available – you don’t have to face it alone. Explore our Coping with pet loss and Do pets grieve? pages for help, advice and shared experiences.
How to remember your pet
Finding ways to remember your pet can be healing. Small, meaningful acts help to keep the bond alive – and offer comfort on even the hardest days.
Here are some ways to honour your pet’s memory.
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Journal your personal memories
“Write down all their funny little quirks,” says one owner in our Pet Grief survey. “One day you’ll be glad you did.”
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Create a memory wall
“I’ve filled my hall with pictures of my pet,” says another owner. “And I always say hello to them.”
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Talk to them
Many people find peace in speaking their pet’s name aloud. “It’s not silly,” says pet bereavement therapist Andy. “It’s a way of keeping their memory alive.”
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Visit a favourite place
Spend time in the quiet corners where they used to doze and return to walking routes you enjoyed together. Feel their presence linger.
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Choose a keepsake
Plant a tree or flower, or keep a pawprint or ashes in a special place. These tangible reminders can be comforting.
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Support a cause in their name
Donate to a cause they remind you of or volunteer your time.
When should you get another pet?
There’s no timeline for grief. Some people wait years to get a new pet, others get one much sooner. Think about your emotions, your lifestyle and any other pets you have. If you do feel ready, consider giving a home to a rescue animal. Every adoption gives an animal in need a second chance at happiness.